A couple days ago Mike Linksvayer left a comment on a photo at my Flickr photostream. His comment includes a link which references a blog post by Mark Pilgrim. In this blog post “The pursuit of happiness,” Mark gives an 8 step process to achieve this goal. It essentially consists of getting rid of all your worldly possessions. By his scale, I’m more or less at step 6 and I don’t have plans of going farther than that, and I consider myself a somewhat extreme minimalist. He claims he’s still on step 4, so I’d like to chat with him once he reaches step 6.
Anyway, as Mike divined, this is a matter very close to my heart. I am absolutely convinced that there is an inverse relationship between the amount of things one owns and the probability of happiness, though I would not, myself, use the word “happiness,” rather I would say joy or contentedness.
Every thing you own is attended by some amount of complication. I hear a lot of people continually talking about how busy they are, how tired they are, how complicated their lives are. Generally it is believed that all this complication and weariness will be solved by some acquisition or other or [useless] bit of technology or money. Sadly, none of this is true and so people have a propensity to continue piling complication on top of complication in the vain hope that they can fight fire with fire. Incidentally, I’m not even sure that most people realize they are fighting fire with fire.
There is a common aphorism in English that goes something like this: it’s better to have it and not need it, than to need it and not have it. This concept is more insidious than most people imagine — a recipe for complication, for you can never have everything you are going to need and you will rarely, if ever, need everything you have.
A number of years ago I had some free time and some spare money and was on the verge of hiking the Pacific Crest Trail. To that end, I bought a book called “The Pacific Crest Trail Hiker’s Handbook” by a man named Ray Jardine. In this seminal book he comments on the aforementioned principle and turns it on it’s head by producing his own: if I need it and don’t have it, then I don’t need it. Not only did this notion change my idea of backpacking, but it crept into my daily life. From it, I generated a new principle: if I have it and don’t need it, then I get rid of it. Since that time, sometime back in the late 1990s, I have whittled down my belongings to what can be carried on my person. Sure, at any given moment I may have more than that, but nothing that I won’t readily leave on the sidewalk for the taking or at the Goodwill.
In the avoidance of gaining new things, I also abandoned gift giving on holidays and birthdays. For the vast majority of people this type of gift-giving is a keep-up-with-the-Joneses, perfunctory gesture of the most unsentimental variety. When eight or nine years ago I announced that I wanted not one thing for my birthday or any holiday and that nobody should expect any from me, well, this announcement was met with some amount of disbelief and chagrin. I was told: but you are throwing out the baby with the bathwater. To which I replied: but you are drowning the baby in the bathwater.
So, for the better part of decade now I have happily avoided commercialized gift giving/receiving. Not only have I managed to avoid accumulating a lot of things I didn’t want in the first place, but my life is much less complicated as a result of it all. Gift giving is exceedingly special, just take care to do it as a result of your heart, and not the calendar. I don’t mean to imply that these two things are necessarily mutually exclusive, only that one needs to be cautious when the two mix.
Summary: less is more. Do you want to uncomplicate your life? Start divesting yourself of material possessions, stem consumerism, live as consciously as possible. Live free.